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One of the first steps to control anger is to understand what anger is and where it comes from. There is no need to get upset that you are angry. Anger is a normal human reaction to certain situations. As such, it has probably been kept by evolution as something that helped us to survive and adapt over millions of years.
recognize that there is nothing we can do to stop us from becoming angry is a positive revelation to some people who think that they just should not get angry under any circumstances and to get angry is “wrong” . If you ask a hundred people on the street how they would react to having their car stolen, I’m sure you’d find that the “anger” was high on the list of responses.
What needs to be addressed, through anger management, is the anger we create and how we deliver it. To match the modern society, there are very few ways in which anger can be itself out. We can yell, but not too loud or the neighbors to call the police. We can hit something, but nothing valuable or something that could be dangerous if it broke. Of course, it is not permitted to take out our anger on other people, either verbally or physically. And what can we do to release anger automatically? Well, how about hitting something that can not be broken, is not worth much and will not mind getting hit? One possibility is to prevent your anger on a big soft pillow, or something similar.
While some people may say that it is better to rage, many others would object to the proposal. People who contain anger may find it bursting out of them in a very inappropriate way when their ability to store it is poor. It may well be better to avoid the wrath of the pillow and bottle it up inside only to prevent it months or years later in a catastrophic way.
One of the best methods to deal with anger if you are prone to vent your anger in the wrong way is to find when and where you get angry and avoid those situations. If, for example, alcohol results in you getting more angry than you normally would, you can moderate alcohol consumption, or even avoided.
Another deal hardware using logic, which takes a lot of practice. Before you start to get angry, think about what is going to happen. Put spiritual “pause” before the situation intensified and ask yourself if this situation is worth getting angry about. Be honest with yourself. Are you looking for a fight? If so, why? You are helping to build an argument? If so, why? When you wake up in the morning, you will feel better that you avoid arguments today, or that you took part in it and lost your temper? When you wake up tomorrow, would you still think that all you lost your temper over was important enough to make the consequences worth it, or should have walked away? If you consider these things before getting angry, you will see that ninety-nine percent of arguments are avoidable, the results of misunderstandings or relatively trivial issues get amplified in the heat of the moment. Learn to master the ability to walk away from a potentially bad situation.
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writer by Andrew Jamaz